The most heartbreaking part for me is that the majority of people have been trained to believe we are “fine” and we getting what we “need.” We are not fine. Seriously, look at the divorce and crime rates, suicides, homicides, the addictions and growing list of dis-eases… The majority of our vital needs are neglected and abused, dismissed or propaganda-ed. I will read more headlines tomorrow about how could someone do this horrid act and how it came out of nowhere. And even if you are “fine,” oftentimes there are contextual variables affecting outcomes so naturally, some will find spanking effective, unaware of the buffers or resiliency factors at play.

I could reflect a truth yet the truth hurts and we are not allowed to feel pain or cry or express vulnerability. To feel compassion you must heal yet to heal you need to cry, or at least process through raw thoughts and feelings. But we are afraid to share and listen to feelings. So where does that leave us?… Sadly, on the front page again with rising acting out behaviors.

To me, there are no bad people, only those with less vital needs met and more pain to heal.  Fortunately, I have found that connection, mindfulness, and nonviolent communication are the most effective ways to nurture human beings and discover mutually satisfying solutions.

Consciously choose to be part of the solution not the problem. Ease stress, nurture needs…

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