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I have been learning a lot of about outer space with my kids and it amazes me how our planet is extremely vulnerable. It reminds again of the miracle of life, the dynamic interplay of all the seen and the unknown, and how precious every day is. I had first been awakened to this awareness after experiencing a few miscarriages, the last one being a stillbirth. The loss of life made me conscious of how I must prioritize and nurture my wellbeing and all those who grace my presence. I chose not to conceive again till I was fear-less, accepting that every day with the baby within could still end in death yet chose to appreciate the value of her life to help me slow me down, connect to my own rhythms and nurture myself.

When I faced my own fears of death, I discovered what scared me most was leaving my children in a world filled with fears, suffering, and traumatized souls. That they would be robbed of their mother’s unconditional love and support. It was then I made it my mission to dedicate my life to creating peace and love in the world so, in the time of my death, my children would be surrounded in the love and light I had cultivated. I believe we are all born with a unique purpose and innate intelligence rooted in love and trust. My greatest desire is to empower everyone I meet to discover their light so our universe will radiate with an abundance of resources and love. When we choose to be conscious of our vulnerability and power, every moment becomes a gift, an opportunity to connect, heal, and grow. Be (a) present. 

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“In healthy relationships… the portal to integration is presence.”-Daniel SiegelWe all know that trust doesn’t just happen in relationship. Trust takes time and energy to build. The Check

Source: The Power of Presence in Positive, Trusting Relationships

 “When someone shares something of value with you, and you benefit from it, you have a moral obligation to share it with others.” ~Chinese Proverb

I have an intense fear of sharing my opinions or experiences. I am afraid of upsetting people or making them feel that I am trying to influence them so I err on staying quiet and trusting that my actions will speak louder. Yet this proverb has given me a bit of courage to share some things that sadly I feel judged upon.  Here is a list of things that have been shared with me and my family have benefited immensely from:

  • natural, conscious, peaceful, respectful, positive, attachment, child-honoring and trust-based parenting
  • Home birth
  • breastfeeding (throughout the night and extended)
  • co-sleeping/ family bed
  • no circumcision
  • baby sign language
  • cloth diapers
  • elimination communication
  • unschooling  http://www.naturalchild.org/guest/earl_stevens.html
  • yoga
  • meditation
  • Zumba
  • Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing  http://www.emdr.com/general-information/what-is-emdr/what-is-emdr.html
  • Individual and Couples Counseling
  • Reading self-help books
  • Mindfulness
  • the practice of Non-violence (in thoughts, actions, words) http://www.cnvc.org/
  • Vitalistic chiropractic care
  • acupuncture
  • herbalist
  • real food
  • trauma-informed care
  • neuroscience
  • epigenetics
  • essential oils
  • fasting
  • radical acceptance

This list is not exhaustive and what works for some will not work for everyone. I believe there are many ways to the same end point (equifinality) so there really is no wrong or right way. What matters most is being able to tune into your heart amongst all the noise of other’s opinions and egos, to follow your light, having an open mind, and that you make well-informed decisions that best meets your needs in compassionate and respectful ways. It’s how you do it and not specifically what you do.

What “LIGHT” means to me…

“But it will always be that the prophet is the first victim of his own message, and only later do people say, ‘Oh, now I understand.'” ~Joseph Girzone Joshua: A Parable for Today

“Lead us from death to life, from falsehood to truth, From despair to hope, from fear to trust, lead us from hatred to love, from war to peace; let peace fill our hearts, let peace fill our world, let peace fill our universe.

“Still all the angry cries, still all the angry guns, Still now your people die, earth’s sons and daughters. Let Justice roll, let mercy pour down, come and teach us Your way of compassion.

“Lead us from death to life, from falsehood to truth, from despair to hope, from fear to trust, lead us from hatred to love, from war to peace; let peace fill our hearts, let peace fill our world, let peace fill our universe.

“So many lonely hearts, so many broken lives, longing for love to break into their darkness. Come, teach us love, come, teach us peace, come and teach us Your way of compassion.

“Lead us from death to life, from falsehood to truth, From despair to hope, from fear to trust, lead us from hatred to love, from war to peace; peace fill our hearts, let peace fill our world, let peace fill our universe.

“Let justice ever roll, let mercy fill the earth, let us begin to grow into your people. We can be love, we can be peace, we can be Your way of compassion.

“Lead us from death to life, from falsehood to truth, from despair to hope, from fear to trust, lead us from hatred to love, from war to peace; Let peace fill our hearts, let peace fill our world, let peace fill our universe……..Peace.”

“The core beliefs of children who have experienced secure and compromised attachments in the early years are as follows:

Secure Attachment:

  • Self. “I am good, wanted, worthwhile, competent, and lovable.”
  • Caregivers. “They are appropriately responsive to my needs, sensitive, dependable, caring, trustworthy.”
  • Life. “My world feels safe; life is worth living.”

Compromised Attachment:

  • Self. “I am bad, unwanted, worthless, helpless, and unlovable.”
  • Caregivers. “They are unresponsive to my needs, insensitive, hurtful, and untrustworthy.”
  • Life. “My world feels unsafe; life is painful and burdensome.”

“The goal of Corrective Attachment Parenting is not merely to change childrens’ behavior, but rather to change their negative core beliefs. This is quite challenging, because core beliefs are rigid, automatic, and associated with self-protection and survival. Your relationship with your child becomes the pathway to change and healing. Without change, negative core beliefs formed early in life remain fixed into adulthood, with severe social and emotional consequences.” ~Terry Levy http://www.evergreenpsychotherapycenter.com/memory-impacts-child-core-beliefs/

How does one survive the brink of madness?

Seems impossible to describe my throes…

I can touch god but just as quick,

The rug is pulled from my feet and the wool over my eyes

I am worthy of nothing, an “it” to despise

Longing to rid this disguise

Terrified no one will oblige

The double edge sword we all parade

The bed we’ve made

Too comfortable to escape

Trapped by delusions

My gut aches

Conditioned to swallow the pills

My voice, a diminished 7th, shrills

I betray myself convinced I am serving

I wage a war against the pacifist in me

Knowing acceptance is half the battle

I leap…

Mesmerized by faith

Cradled in waves

I surrender,

Embrace.

 

~compassiondw 5/20/16

 

 

 

 

 

 

Many people have been asking for a short video that explains the CDC-Kaiser Permanente Adverse Childhood Experiences Study, the groundbreaking epidemiological research that revealed the link between childhood trauma and the adult onset of chronic disease, mental illness, violence and being a victim of violence. KPJR Films, which came out with Paper Tigers last year […]

via Five-minute video primer about Adverse Childhood Experiences Study — ACEs Too High

I wish I can fall in a rabbit hole

Lose time and the 1000 worries behind

 

I observe the tension float away like bubbles,

Yet become drenched, uncomfortable as they pop

 

Exposed like a bullseye

My default is to run, hide and cry

 

I am teetering a tight rope

Where a simple “how are you” feels loaded and insincere

 

My current musing:

Is suffering necessary, man-made or all the above

 

I feel tension a mile, even generations away

I speak taboo, triggering with my inflection

 

When I eventually rise,

I know a brilliant path unfolds

I just seem perpetually stuck on this disguise

XO ~DW

 

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I was relieved to read a CNN article that captured the iceberg of emotional pain and experiences that accumulates to such extreme endings. It is not one event that provokes us; it is a lifetime of unmet needs, emotional violence and suppression of authentic self.  We cannot even learn new skills because we are too afraid to even admit that we have fault.

Click following link to read article, What if he were your kid? By Joshua Coleman http://www.cnn.com/2011/OPINION/01/14/coleman.parents.arizona/index.html?hpt=T2

Personally, I think we all have fault and we are all responsible.

If you’d like to learn more about the evolution of violence and peace read the article, How Culture Shapes the Developing Brain and the Future of Humanity By James W. Prescott (Ph.D.)http://www.kindredcommunity.com/articles/how-culture-shapes-the-developing-brain-and-the-future-of-humanity/p/934

“The greatest terror a child can have is that he is not loved, and rejection is the hell he fears. I think everyone in the world to a large or…

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I want to achieve so much, I have many ideas and do lots of things yet often feel I am not making the progress I want because I am all over the place. For example, I admin 4 facebook pages, 2 websites, maintain my own private practice in the States, starting one in NZ and volunteer for various organisations. My main goal is to promote sensitivity, compassion, tolerance, empathy, emotional intelligence in all systems (e.g. homes, schools, recreational programs, courts) My ultimate intentions:
*Ignite and connect humanity at our deepest cellular, emotional, and spiritual levels of interaction;
*Cultivate intergenerational healing and relational integrity;
*Maximize human potential;
*Empower authentic self and innate resources; and
*Transcend from fear and apathy to unconditional love and non-violent action.

I have learned that when I focus my energy on something, it shines yet I just can’t decide where to focus it or even if I have too… Maybe I am meant to be all over the place and trust it will all come together when it is meant to.

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When I am mindful and present, I feel peaceful and content. Yet it often feels I live in a fear-based, you-will-be-blamed- shamed- and- antagonized -till -you-give -what- you- owe- me kind of world. It is maddening and quite exhausting. If I could draw this sentiment, this is what my comic strip would look like…

Me trying to do a standing yoga pose with a bullseye board behind me; knives, arrows, cell-phones, computers, TVs are being thrown and hitting me every where. There would be a thinking bubble coming up from my grimacing, shocked face of me doing a supreme yoga pose, every projectile has perfectly missed me as well as created an outline of a scenic background, and I have a serene look on my face. And then some random, large finger comes and pops my dream bubble.

…after a bit of introspection, I thought it ironic how one of my dreams is to create…

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