Here’s a link to a biographical talk I gave on what “Light” means to me https://soundcloud.com/waitalks-1/light

For some reason most of my life I have had difficulty following what seemed simple directions. This usually led to people being very frustrated with me and me feeling stupid. “What’s the matter with you!?” seems imprinted in my brain. It’s like I lacked common sense. I also was considered gullible because I truly believed what people said to me. After decades of depression and anxiety, I realized that maybe I am blessed with an uncommon sense, a deep awareness and understanding of ways not many see. We are meant to be different as we each have a gift to share. Here’ a poem of mine as I discover my gift:

I feel like I am an infinity dimensional being living in a 3D world

Like a star trying to squeeze through a peg hole

I feel forced to live one reality whilst my soul yearns for another

I’m straddled across an abyss, terrified of being torn apart or falling too deep

I know the inherent value of both sides but the pressure to pick pulls at me

I feel stuck, conflicted and intensely in tuned to the extremes

The suffering and fears

The joys and trust 

Who am I and where do I belong?

Enlighten me

Maybe I am not meant to choose, yet levitate and be a bridge…

Oh Anxiety…
You act like a friend, a guise for motivation
I want to stuff you in a bag and suffocate you
Like how I feel when you visit me

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I was relieved to read a CNN article that captured the iceberg of emotional pain and experiences that accumulates to such extreme endings. It is not one event that provokes us; it is a lifetime of unmet needs, emotional violence and suppression of authentic self.  We cannot even learn new skills because we are too afraid to even admit that we have fault.

Click following link to read article, What if he were your kid? By Joshua Coleman http://www.cnn.com/2011/OPINION/01/14/coleman.parents.arizona/index.html?hpt=T2

Personally, I think we all have fault and we are all responsible.

If you’d like to learn more about the evolution of violence and peace read the article, How Culture Shapes the Developing Brain and the Future of Humanity By James W. Prescott (Ph.D.)http://www.kindredcommunity.com/articles/how-culture-shapes-the-developing-brain-and-the-future-of-humanity/p/934

“The greatest terror a child can have is that he is not loved, and rejection is the hell he fears. I think everyone in the world to a large or…

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I want to achieve so much, I have many ideas and do lots of things yet often feel I am not making the progress I want because I am all over the place. For example, I admin 4 facebook pages, 2 websites, maintain my own private practice in the States, starting one in NZ and volunteer for various organisations. My main goal is to promote sensitivity, compassion, tolerance, empathy, emotional intelligence in all systems (e.g. homes, schools, recreational programs, courts) My ultimate intentions:
*Ignite and connect humanity at our deepest cellular, emotional, and spiritual levels of interaction;
*Cultivate intergenerational healing and relational integrity;
*Maximize human potential;
*Empower authentic self and innate resources; and
*Transcend from fear and apathy to unconditional love and non-violent action.

I have learned that when I focus my energy on something, it shines yet I just can’t decide where to focus it or even if I have too… Maybe I am meant to be all over the place and trust it will all come together when it is meant to.

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When I am mindful and present, I feel peaceful and content. Yet it often feels I live in a fear-based, you-will-be-blamed- shamed- and- antagonized -till -you-give -what- you- owe- me kind of world. It is maddening and quite exhausting. If I could draw this sentiment, this is what my comic strip would look like…

Me trying to do a standing yoga pose with a bullseye board behind me; knives, arrows, cell-phones, computers, TVs are being thrown and hitting me every where. There would be a thinking bubble coming up from my grimacing, shocked face of me doing a supreme yoga pose, every projectile has perfectly missed me as well as created an outline of a scenic background, and I have a serene look on my face. And then some random, large finger comes and pops my dream bubble.

…after a bit of introspection, I thought it ironic how one of my dreams is to create…

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Yes, a trauma-informed justice system is greatly needed as jailing people comes at much greater cost than financial as being removed from your primary caregiver is the biggest trauma any person can suffer. These traumatized souls often have less resources and access to healthy outlets to process the trauma and heal, thus resulting in a society of traumatized souls exploding all over the place.

Calling for reform, President Obama notes the impact of incarceration on families.

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I have learned that the most gratifying and sustaining form of motivation comes from within, intrinsically. Sadly, much of our world is built on a punitive or reward based system. Most of us are doing things only to avoid pain and gain a reward.

There are countless thoughts, feelings, and variables influencing a persons’ action and self-worth. Much of these go ignored, unappreciated, refuted, shamed, criticized, rejected, etc. Our self worth deteriorates into a distorted picture of what others think and by how we are treated. We focus on external things to not only judge our own wellbeing and value but to also make us feel better.

I have an extensive history of being successful: captain, honor roll student, summa cum laude, promoted, Masters of Science, business owner, happily married, brilliant children, yet when ever anything goes slightly off, all I can see is a big fat “F” and feeling…

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I will open the present of today with extra care. With any information I receive from all my senses, I will acknowledge the suffering, accept its validity, and respond with benevolence.

I pray for that I can find the grace I need to handle the bumps and holes tripping me up.  I feel as a star trying to fit into a square hole. My mind races in four dimensions but feel stuck living in a 3-D world. A broken child, a recovering spirit.I feel responsible for every wrong yet know I only have control of my present thoughts.

I know I will find my center and core source, in fact it has never left me. This momentary lapse is a normal part of the journey and an opportunity to grow. I will overcome the negative tapes of intense fear, insecurity and judgement. I am joy and peace.

It is not…

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It seems on a regular basis, there are sexual abuse and molestation stories that make headlines that finally get people’s attention. Truth be known that every 107 seconds, someone in the US is sexually assaulted (see https://www.rainn.org/statistics).  The statistics are worse worldwide. These statistics do not surprise me, I am actually more alarmed that many others are surprised. Our society is a petri dish for sexual abuse. Sex is basic physiological need. Healthy sexual development begins at day one of life. Our society tends to shame and repress our natural desires of sexual expression. So what do we do when we are not allowed to find healthy ways to express ourselves, we hide it and seek out any opportunity we can get no matter how wrong it may be. Next, we will take advantage of vulnerable people to get our needs met. On top of this, we have a double edge sword in our society where we train children, our most precious and vulnerable, that they must obey authority figures and they have no rights to say “No.”

Sexual expression is a very complex and sensitive issue because even though we have been trained to feel mentally or morally wrong in most situations, it is fundamentally a physiological need so it still feels good physically. It is not enough to have the one Big Talk or random assertion that You should have no one touch you and to tell mom or dad if someone does. It is a constant open dialogue in small teachable moments throughout life. It is in the subtle messages you send via your choice of words, clothes, media, and so on. Although it angers me how ignorant people are to these messages or that children are having sex and that trusted adults are molesting children everywhere, I understand why we ignore the signs. To accept that this is going on in your city, your school, and even worse, your family, would mean that you have to accept responsibility that this went on without your awareness. Of course it is easier to be in denial, it is a natural defense mechanism as who would want to take any responsibility for suffering.

And the common reactions of when these stories of sexual abuse make headlines, “Yay, lets string ’em by their balls and make them suffer” or “They should rot in jail!” make me feel even worse. You see, those reactions are just as violent as the crimes themselves and no one heals. I was given inappropriate attention since I can first remember, I was molested by a neighbor and sexually harassed on a daily basis whist attending a catholic school. These events had led to traumatic consequences and emotional scars that I am still healing. Yet, I forgive every one of the boys and men who used me as an object and no longer wish ill on them. I know that they were doing the best with the resources they had. I do not blame them as we live in a culture that promotes sexual abuse. I choose to be part of the solution. I empower, educate, and support people to find healthy, respectful, and non-violent ways to get their needs met.

Here are a few links to get you started:







Talking with Your Child About Sex: Questions and Answers for Children from Birth to Puberty, by Mary S. Calderone and James W. Ramey

10 Conversations to Have with your Teen about Sex, Dating & Relationships by Dr. Pepper Schwartz

“If the Tao is lost then morality takes its place.

If that fails, we have conscience.

When that fades, we get justice.

When that disappears, we have status quo.”

Lao Tzu,  Tao Te Ching

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