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“Emotional reactions almost always occur unconsciously, and most people have some difficulty managing their emotions. Parents are no exception.”
Click on link to learn more about how the use of force has been rationalized as a needed parenting tool and make a pledge to choose more loving and healthy approaches: http://parentingwithoutpunishment.org/
Link also cites from one of my favorite books Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman
“Mother Teresa said, ‘The biggest disease today is not leprosy or tuberculosis but rather the feeling of not belonging.’
We live on auto-pilot in our every day relationships and our ability to automatically interpret the world can lead to disconnection, which leads to dis-ease in life.” ~Elisha Golstein
Quoted from article: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/elisha-goldstein-phd/4-steps-to-better-relatio_b_779168.html
Read now to start being non-judgemental…
Make today what you want it to be!
“Reality is what we take to be true. What we take to be true is what we believe. What we believe is based upon our perceptions. What we perceive depends upon what we look for. What we look for depends upon what we think. What we think depends upon what we perceive. What we perceive determines what we believe. What we believe determines what we take to be true. what we take to be true is our reality.” Gary Zukav
I thank a professor and advisor who gave me this quote about 7 years ago. Although I did not get it at first, it has grown with me. I still have the orginal copy. It made it all the way to another hemisphere on my fridge with doodles and much wear and tear. I came up with an abbreviated version, “You only know what you know, ya know?”
When “under stress or fear EMPATHY regulates, LOGIC infuriates.”
“Did you know that under stress your prefrontal cortex (executive center of the brain)shuts down and all of your decision-making and cognitive thinking goes bye-bye? Remember this the next time you attempt to use logic or advice with an upset child (or partner/sister/friend).“
In any heated interaction, you can choose to give water or gas; grow love or fuel hate. You have the power to take deep breaths, talk less, and listen with your heart. Thank you TEACH through Love for your daily, gentle reminders on love and regulation like the ones quoted above. http://www.teach-through-love.com/
http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/317/unconditional-love I hope at least one person will play the episode above and listen with heart. Here are a few tidbits:
- A monkey would prefer to cuddle all day with a soft fake monkey and only go to the wire version for quick sips of milk when dire only to rush back for more cuddles.
- We can die without touch.
- Some authority prescribed no-contact with parents because they thought they knew better.
- Anything is possible with trust, persistence, and unconditional love
EveryONE needs and deserves UNCONDITIONAL love and safe spaces to express one’s thoughts and feelings, especially the negative ones. LOVING, nurturing, positive RELATIONships and healthy stimulating environments go hand in hand. When fear dominates our brain than we sabotage our positive connections. Our society is suffering from relational poverty due to fear-based and controlling practices slathered with an overabundance of technology and apathy. We may be connected online, yet DIS-connected in life. It is amazing how freeing one can feel when you let go of fears and judgement, embrace the worst-case-scenarios and believe the BEST in everyone. We really can handle anything with love and support. Check out my post describing unconditional love: https://compassiondw.wordpress.com/2010/05/11/the-love-we-need-and-deserve/
“Unless individuals are peaceful within themselves, they cannot work for peace among nations.” – Thich Nhat Hanh
click link below to watch and listen to a PEACE meditation: http://www.beliefnet.com/features/peace/test2/container01.html
It is nice to take deep breaths and sit in a comfortable position while listening.
http://www.beliefnet.com/Holistic-Living/2007/01/Peace-Meditation.aspx
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