“When a loss occurs in life, it disrupts the physiologic system of the body. The cellular system constricts into survival and recovery as it seeks to restore itself from the shock of loss. When we lose something or someone important to us, we actually experience a cellular disruption within our bodymind system, this is the essence of grief. It is jarring to the physical, emotional, and psychological core of who we are. The healing of this experience requires the ability to express, process, and understand what has occurred within the context of a loving and supportive relationship. ..

“The children need to be nurtured, fed well, loved and also provided an open environment to express their sadness, ask questions, and be angry if that is what they are moved to do.

“This is the foundation of a healing environment for trauma. Research indicates that the quicker such an environment and opportunity can be provided, the more effect it will have on reducing trauma symptoms later. If this is not done the traumatic experience can be stored away within the bodymind system and can impact the individual for many years to come.

“Grieving is not easy because it hurts, but it does not have to be difficult either. We merely need to trust that relationships are safe and our feelings will not kill us, because they won’t. And if you are alone and need to grieve, trust that your tears are heard, they are felt, even though you may not realize it. As soon as you can find a support group, a counselor, or a friend that will support you as you open up and let go. It’s an ongoing process as your body recovers from its loss yet each effort to be open to what you feel will make the recovery process much quicker. Before you know it the pain you once experienced in such a constricting way has become a peaceful memory with a tinge of sadness as your body reflects the meaning the person held in your life.” ~Dr Bryan Post  https://thepostinstitute.infusionsoft.com/app/hostedEmail/765158/c3d97408a643d681

Pain is pain and cannot be measured: a lost teddy bear can be another’s lost wedding ring; a broken leg can be another’s cancer; a breakup can be another’s death…it all hurts, regardless. Reliable unconditional love and empathetic listening heals all whilst ignorance and judgments build a wall.

Link to Dr Bryan Post’s Website http://postinstitute.com/hope.php?p=DW1&w=home