You are currently browsing the category archive for the ‘spiritual’ category.
An excerpt from last Newsletter of Energy Parenting by Susan McLeod
My parting story is borrowed from Jack Canfield about a mother and a young child. It sums up for me the essence of all things energyparenting:
A research scientist famous for dozens of medical breakthroughs was asked by a reporter why he was able to achieve so much more than the average scientist. He traced it to this early experience: When he was 2 years old, he tried to get the milk out of the refrigerator and ended up spilling all of it on the floor. His mother’s response wasn’t typical. She said, “What a wonderful mess you’ve made! I’ve never seen such a huge puddle of milk. Well, the damage is already done, so would you like to get down and play in the milk before we clean it up?” Indeed, he did. After a few minutes, his mother said, “Whenever you make a mess like this, eventually you’ll have to clean it up. How would you like to do that – with a sponge or a mop or a towel?” After they cleaned it up, the mother said, “What we have here is a failed experiment in how to carry a big bottle of milk with two tiny hands. Let’s go out in the backyard, fill the bottle with water and see if you can discover a way to carry it without dropping it.” The scientist told the reporter he knew at that moment, at that tender age, that he didn’t have to be afraid of making mistakes. He understood that mistakes were just opportunities for learning something new.
Give your children and YOURSELF this same gift of “no mistakes” - freedom to explore living, loving and being human. And…if you feel the need to cry over spilled milk, do it – before or after you clean up and have another go at it! Feelings are our friends and they only need to be felt. They are the flagpoles of our soul; we need not fear them.
I am humbled I ran across this resource a couple years ago as it shown a unique light on my parenting and spiritual journey. It helped give me permission to let go of behavioral management of kids, to just be present and enjoy my children. The fact that I felt I even needed permission to do this gives more credence to the unnecessary suffering I endured from my messes. I don’t have to make up consequences or enforce anything. I can just use what is inherent and experience the manifestation of human development within the most influential relationship there is: parent and child.
Check out Susan’s website as she has many resources and is having a going out of business sale with amazing books. http://www.energyparenting.com/public/main.cfm
“The patter of rain on the roof, The glint of the sun on the rose; Of life, these the warp and the woof, The weaving that everyone knows. Now grief with its consequent tear, Now joy with its luminous smile; The days are the threads of the year– Is what I am weaving worth while?…
…Am I making the most of the red And the bright strands of luminous gold? Or blotting them out with the thread By which all men’s failure is told? Am I picturing life as despair, As a thing men shall shudder to see, Or weaving a bit that is fair That shall stand as the record of me?” from: Just Folks by Edgar A. Guest Copyright 1917 by The Reilly & Britton
“I have never met a person whose greatest need was anything other than real, unconditional love. You can find it in a simple act of kindness toward someone who needs help. There is no mistaking love. You feel it in your heart. It is the common fiber of life, the flame that heals our soul, energizes our spirit and supplies passion to our lives. It is our connection to God and to each other.” – Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
Check out link http://community.charterforcompassion.org/ to commit to acts of kindness
This audio is a bit long, but describes what I have discovered over the 30 odd years of living and healing in about 25 minutes. It seems worth to me. It sums up how genes and enviornment interact to create our subconscious during our first six years of life and plays out in all our relationships from there on.
Listen to internet radio with Tapping To Success on Blog Talk Radio
