“Children are not objects that we could control or shape to fit our ideals…Children are indeed uncontrollable, but that is not the root of the challenges parents face.  It is the tendency to control the uncontrollable that makes parenting problematic for many. The only things that we truly have control over are those that lie within the self – how choose to we see our children, think about their behaviours, and act with or towards them. ”

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When You Stop Controlling, You Gain Control

My life experiences have taught me this: You cannot control anyone.  Not even one’s children, nor many of your “reactions” because our brain is a complex series of chemical reactions that absorbs information from all our senses, past experiences and genetic code. Your default “reactions” were developed during conception to age 5. What you can CONTROL is where you put your energy and how you choose to RESPOND. We all have the power to let go of judgement, bring awareness to our thoughts, feelings, and consequences of our behaviors, and gain news skills and resources to get our own needs met.